My life began turning upside down a couple weeks ago. My boyfriend found out I had numerous affairs with some of his best friends which included threesomes and one-night stands.
I am completely in love with him, what should I do?
Thank you for your letter. But, after reading your letter I don't think you will thank me for my answer.
My question to you is if you love someone deeply, respect them completely, and are devoted to him without question, how can you have any type of affair? Especially affairs with his best friends.
It doesn’t matter if you have an affair with one person or 100, you have betrayed and deceived your boyfriend. And, if you think that this is acceptable, then you are deceiving yourself. That or you just have a different set of morals than what is defined and accepted in society, or you both have a different type of relationship.
Do you think you are truly in love with your boyfriend? Do you think that you have your own value system and standards of life and relationships with people?
You will have to decide what you think is best and fair for yourself and for your boyfriend. And, he will have to communicate how he feels, and what if he does, want from the relationship from you.
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