Dear princess,
I have been dating my girl for almost a year. She's hard core and butch. My problem is she won't admit she's a girl.If you call her one she flips. I really like her but I don't know what to do. I want a lady not a man.
My other concern is that I've been out of circut for so long. If I decide to start over again dating, I wouldn't know where to begin!
How do I get her to change, become more like a girl, and let me call her my girlfriend?
Broken Heart
Dear Broken Heart,
Your question really is should two hearts think and be as one. I read your letter and I think there are two issues to be addressed.
First, to have and maintain a relationship with another there has to be building blacks. There are three building blocks. There has to be mutual respect, understanding, and acceptance. Cemented with work, work, and more work.
I'm wondering what qualities attracted you to your girlfriend? In the fist stages of dating, we see and learn
about ourself and our partner through interaction. What did you see and learn from this?
Second, why do you feel that being out of action would make it impossible for you to enter the dating game again? There's no start. Just being. Be happy, be active in life and the community. Beinvolved.
You decide what you want in a relationship and in life. If this is not fulfilling, then I would think long and hard about what you need and want in a partnership before you make your move.
There are two hearts involved. But, before you make any decision, talk to her and discuss your concerns. But, please don't make hasty decisions during the holidays!
Remember, you don't have to be in construction to build and maintain a relationship. Just be happy!
Happy Valentine's Day!
Princess Darby
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