Dear Looking Hard,

Looking to hard for Mr. Right or Mr. Friendly? Soften it up, and you may run right into him.

Relax. Think about where and when your on your hunt.

You have the first idea right. You are looking for a friend first. The word first is important. "Mr. Right" should be a friend first, then a confidant, and lover.

The wrong idea is looking too hard, and then looking desperate. There's nothing worse than the smell of a desperate person on the hunt. The aroma could knock your socks off..especially in summer.

Are you missing out on the fun of the search and chase? Where's the excitement, the challenge?

Think about it. What's going on in your area, after work, with friends? What do you do on your downtime? Do you have hobbies? Do you volunteer? You have to have a bike, it's summer!

First, check out Chicagopride.com for activities and events you can attend by yourself or with friends. IIt's better with firends at first).

Second, volunteer for the Gay Games. Tons of interesting people will be here to meet and have fun with.

Third, always check out your surrounds. You can connect with really great people with a latte and a laptop. Check out the gourmet shops, areas of music and bookstores of your interest.

Finally, look for a part time job at the places you have fun. Your bound to meet someone with similar interests. Remember, I'm using the word INTEREST.

I't heading into summer. June is a fabulous time, especially this year with all the activities in Chicago, or perhaps in your city if not Chicago.

Take your bike out, put on those runners, and carry a snack for two. Be careful, be happy, be safe. You don't want to rush into a summer love affair and get burned not using the right spf!


Princess Darby