Dear Princess Darby,
I have been in three relationships with men and none of them worked out.
I have been doing things with both girls and guys since grade school. I was wondering if it would be best to try a relationship with women since the ones with men aren't working, and right now I really hate them.
Not only that, I have strong sexual feelings for women, I'm just nervous about taking it to that next step. What should I do?
Taking It To The Next Step
Dear Taking The Next Step,
Stiking out on three relationships in a row? Does this mean you've struck out with associations with men, or relationships?
First, because you aren't in a satisfying relationship with a guy doesn't mean you have to jump ship for another gender. Have you thought about why you weren't happy with the guys? What didn't work?
Second, since you "have been doing things" with both sexes since grade school, have you seriously thought about your own sexuality and who you are?
Life can be complicated growing up. There are many questions, emotions, and feelings reaching different levels of emotional and physical maturity. I don't know how old you are, but I suggest you think about how you feel, and what you want out of your friendships.
You have raised important and healthy questions that a lot of people have. It's important now that you are able to discuss them with someone you can confide, trust, and is a professional in this area.
I suggest you speak with your parent, doctor, or a professional in human sexuality.
Be patient. Think carefully about your health and safety. Life offers many questions, and it's healthy to hunt the answere..with a professional. Get solid advice before you jump into hasty situations.
Relationships and friendships take time and work. Have fun doing. Take steps, not leaps to find good friends and friendships.
Enjoy the summer.
Princess Darby
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