Dear Princess Darby,
I am recently beginning a relationship with someone that is 10 years younger than I.
We have so much in common and although we are at different stages of our lives we have been able to make it work for 4 months now.
We are really falling for each other but will the age difference get in the way? My friends all tell me to be careful but I am truly falling for her.
Signed,
"Age Ain't Nothin' But A Number"
Dear Age Ain't Nothing But A Number,
Age is more than a number. It defines our maturity, values, goals, ambition, dreams, and history. It is who we are. It is our past which is reflected in our environment, experiences, heart aches, and joy. It is a sound, song, fashion, food, restaurant, car, city, all the corners of the years of our lives.
The target of ten years is a decade. Depending when that arrow of time hits the age of difference of that spread of your "different stages", it could make an impact..or not immediately.
What is your age spread? Is your partner 20 vs. 30? 30 vs. 40, 40 vs. 50? Usually about 5 years spread from 20-35, 40-45 is workable.
The key is able to appreciate each other, relate, understand, support, enjoy, share, and have fun together. If you are able to do this, then cupid's arrow won't result in heartache. Enjoy each other. Only you can judge. Time will tell.
Although, a word to the older partner. The clock is ticking. Where do you want to be in your romantic period of your life?
Enjoy the summer, it's a fabulous time to be in love!
Princess Darby
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