Dear Princess,

I know that the disclaimer at the bottom of the page says that your advice is for entertainment purposes only, but I still intend on taking your advice to heart, as I admire you for all your past advice.

I recently moved here to chicago for school, but I am originally from southeastern virginia. I have a friend back home with whom I am extremely close. We share secrets, dreams, desires, everything.

Throughout our entire friendship, I have always known of her past attraction to girls, but due to the fact that I never saw any possible interest she might have in me. The fact that she has had a boyfriend for over three years, I have always kept any thoughts of her as anything other than a friend out of my mind. This was how I always handled our friendship, that is, until this past june.

Last summer, there was a two-week period in which her boyfriend was in Poland with a friend, and as a result, the two of us spent nearly every waking moment together.

Needless to say, our friendship grew much more intense, and I began to develop feelings for her, despite my severe attempts to keep them at bay. The situation came to a boil one night when the two of us were at a party and we were both less than sober... we were talking alone outside, unheard by everyone around us because it was so loud, and all of a sudden, her face is inches away from mine, and she whispers "don't let me do anything I might regret, because i almost did just now."

I spent the night at her house that night, and we spent most of ot talking about our mutual desire, cuddling, and eventually falling asleep in eachother's arms. She openly confessed to me that she had wanted to kiss me at the party, and that she was very attracted to me, and that she had feelings for me that go beyond friendship, but that she could not do anything about it because of her boyfriend.

While this gave me incredible respect for her, it still broke my heart. She said that if her boyfriend were not in the picture, that she wouldl not hesitate in acting on her feelings.

Now, this admission left me both uplifted and smashed to pieces. On one hand, I felt great because she had admitted to having feelings for me, but on the other hand, she had made me feel inferior by saying, more or less, that I was not worth changing things for.

Since that happened, several mutual friends of ours have told me that she admitted her feelings for me to them as well, and that she really does not know what to do about her feelings. Now, I understand her turmoil, and I know that I cannot in good conscience expect her to drop her life and be with me, but the selfish part of me wishes more than anything that she would do just that.

Now I come down to my question. Do you think there is anything that I can do about this situation? We haven't even talked about it since her boyfriend returned from Poland in July.

I think she's terrified that he will find out. And yet, she continues to give me mixed signals. When our group of friends is together, watching a movie or whatever, and her boyfriend is there as well, she sits next to me, holding my hand and cuddling up to me and almost completely ignores him.

Now, I think I know what I should do, in my heart, but I simply need an outside, unbiased opinion on this. Is there anything I can do about this, and if so, should I do anything at all, or should I simply put my feelings aside and let her remain where she is, in the safe, no surprises relationship???

Please, I will appreciate any advice you can give me, because I can't get her out of my head.

Hopelessly Devoted