Hey Princess,
I have been seeing someone for the past two months, and he is really special to me. Since we met, we knew each that our backgrounds would clash. It is getting a little problematic now. He comes from a really wealthy background, while I am a poor immigrant who has luckily made it in the U.S. in the past two years.
My family back home is my life, and I try to help them out as much as I can, and sometimes it means I send them my full paycheck. He argues a lot with me because he says I owe nothing to my family, but because of my cultural background I feel that I do owe to my family.
We are currently giving each other some space, but I am scared of what might happen. Is there any way to get through our cultural and social differences?
-Lost immigrant in Chicago
Dear Lost Immigrant in Chicago,
Cultural differences present challenges at time, but money doesn't always mean one may not have close family ties. Perhaps he just isn't close to his family.
Reread your letter. You both have very strong convictions. In your eyes, neither are wrong, just different. To have a solid relationship value systems should reflect each other, or make adjustments out of respect.
Although, I personally feel, that if I have a equal partnership with my mate, I would have to contribute to our livlihood, and my family with him should come first. And, at the same time, one could still be responsible to their family back home.
Reason with heart, but remember, you are your best conscience, and have to live and support yourself.
Princess Darby
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