Dear Honey,
I have not dated anyone in 4 years. I am attractive, intelligent, and at times, very outgoing. But, I am having a hard time connecting with the men in my city and state. I am African-American and I am ONLY attracted to other African-American men. The problem is... In Arizona, most Black men are not interested in dating other Black men. Besides moving to another state, what could I do to meet more black men for friendship and dating?
Seeking dark meet
First off, let me say you are not alone. We have become much more dependent on technology to do our socializing. It is here to stay, so we might as well try and take advantage of it. I am not aware of the dating scene in Arizona but maybe there are groups you can join to meets guys that you are attracted to in a fun and social setting. There might even be some groups specific to African-American men in your area that lead you to that special guy. If not, why not create one? Stat a group yourself, you might find that there are guys with the same objective near you? You can't help who you like but do know that love sometimes can find you in the last place you expected it. Concentrate on what is important to you in a relationship. Maybe you will find that special person where you weren't looking. They say love comes when you least expect it.
Much luck on your quest.
Honey
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