Dear Princess Darby,
I am in dier need of some loving. I am wanting to meet people and start dating. I haven't gone on a date in about, and no lie, 3 years.
The last time I had a boyfriend was in 2000!!! I have posted my profile on ChicagoPride.com and on another site, but the only thing most of the men that I talk to just want sex....not that sex is a bad thing but sex isn't what I am looking for.
I want someone who will hold me in his arms, and cuddle with me while we are watching a movie. I want to go out to dinner and maybe take a walk in the park, and talk about whatever.
People keep telling me that maybe me being single is a sign that I should look at myself and see if it's something that I have to change or re-evaluate. But if I have to sit in the yoga position one more time, I am going to get stuck in that position. I have sat down and focused on myself and tried to figure out if there are things that I have to work out or change, and I have.
I am more confident in myself and am always challenging myself to do better and to better myself in areas of my life.
Some friends have "hooked" me up with some people that they know--and by meaning hooked up, I mean a date--and since my "re-evaluation", I have noticed that the guys that my friends are hooking me up with have no drive to them. They don't have anything exciting in their lives.
Then there's the factor that they love going to the bar. Like there is life at the bar, and they must be there when it opens and stay there till they close. Other's are just turned off when I tell them that I live in a small town and not in the city, and others are just so shallow that it's completely a turn off.-----ARGH...
Is there no one out ther for me???
I mean for crying out loud, my profile dancinboi69 is not attracting anyone and I am really starting to wonder if "Mr. Right" is really out there.
What am I to do?
Sincerely
Mr. Right where are you????
Sunday, September 19, 2002
Dear Mr. Right Where Are You????
A thousand days without a date! During that valuable time in your life, what did you do with every precious moment?
What, profile on another site? Tsk, Tsk! I bet they don't have Princess Darby to be your relection of the heart!
Don't think of yourself as one of the few who has been a little dry on the dating scene of life. There are many on the line. Everyone has been through what I call feast or famine. I'm I bet it's still going on right now!
It can get a little lonely out there. But, discretion and patience are the key words. I see you have been patient, and yeah, yeah, you've been very patient. So, my question to you is, what have you been doing with yourself, and where have you been hanging out-or living life?
If your friends have been "hooking" (which is not in spell check), you up people who are ambition free and not interesting it's your problem. It's your fault if you don't communicate this to them. Don't short change your past dates, or friends, the dates may have different agendas, and your friends aren't mind readers.
Meeting Barflies? The only Barflies attract is dead meat. If you are going clubbing, look good, go with a fun group, go late (according to venue), have fun, leave early. There's nothing worse than last call, lights on, and a bad surprise!
Now, you live in a small town? Party in the city? Don't you just hate it when you find someone in the city, and they live in the burbs! People just hate to commute, who wants to drink and drive? Instead of telling right off that you are from a small town, just say you commute. Stay at a friends on weekend, have a cell phone for your calls. Give small towns a break, someone starts out from a small town.
I suggest you review the ChicaoPride.com site. There's so much happening and advertised. Tons of events to attend and meet great people. Don't sell them or yourself short. Don't sell yourself cheap. Keep your head up, values strong, and get out there and have some fun. There's volunteer work, great part time jobs in many interests and fun people.
Go easy on the yoga. Just like any excercise in life, don't get stuck in unhappy situations or in a rut. Live your thoughts happy, strong, healthy, and for now.
You make your decision.
Princess Darby
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