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Bob Bergeron, author of gay self-help books, commits suicide

New York City — Manhattan therapist Bob Bergeron, 49, had just finished writing a book called "The Right Side of 40" last year -- a positive book about how to age gracefully as a gay man.

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Then, on January 5, he committed suicide.

Three weeks before, Bergeron previewed his new book on his website with a chipper post: "I've got a concise picture of what being over forty is about and it's a great perspective filled with happiness, feeling sexy, possessing comfort relating to other men and taking good care of ourselves."

The New York Times reports that friends and family are stunned that the relentlessly cheerful, attractive, and healthy therapist ended his own life.

"We sell this idea that 60 is the new 40, but it's just lying," Dr. Frank Spinelli told the New York Times. "We tell children there's Santa Claus, and then they get older, and learn better. I can't even begin to imagine what Bob was going through."

The New York Times said that Bergeron grew up in the Chicago area and that his family was accepting of his homosexuality. He moved to California, and then later to New York.

The publication of his book, "The Right Side of Forty: The Complete Guide to Happiness for Gay Men at Midlife and Beyond," has been canceled. But there's still a page on Amazon for it, featuring a happy and handsome picture of Bergeron, who finished the manuscript just two weeks before he killed himself.
I am just reading this sad story and am reflecting on my life at 66 - gay and still happy but reflective of all that is being said. I can imagine Bob being too much involved in the gay life style and that of course is difficult to swallow, the after 40 thing... I just spend time in the Castro area in SF and after 40 years of being absent, I noticed going in to the bars, no one was noticing me - last time I was here - in my 20s - well, I was a busy bee and made lots of contacts. Growing older for gay men is not everyone's cup of tea - I am sorry and my heart goes out to Bob's family and friends that he left behind. May his soul rest in peace and is recuperating from the trauma of being born a gay man and living in NY city.
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