Just trying to find a guy I could see myself spending an extended amount of time with. I put a lot into a relationship, and i expect you to do the like.
Turn-ons:
A guy who does not fit the mold. Cute is a plus, ht/wt proportionate. Mature and intelligent big pluses.
Turn-offs:
Clubs, bars, or drinking. Random sex. Drugs. (Pot and poppers are drugs in my book).