Dear E. (Ask Darby advice column)

Hi Princess darby!

Call me E. I have a problem,well..more, a question more than a problem.

I'm a young attractive male who questions what men REALLY look for. I've seen more and more of these ads of men with rock hard abs and skinny little waists, and I'm far from that.

I weigh about 220 pounds and am 6 feet tall, and wear a 34-36 in the waist. Even though I dont feel it, people say that I'm the perfect size. I can't help but wonder if I HAVE to be a size 30 in the waist and have those abs for me to get that undying attention. Or, is it just personal preference?

E.

Wednesday, July 23, 2003

Hi E!

Thank you for your warm letter.

Throw away the magazines! Young men usually underaged, underfed, in ads always create the feeling in one of being undermined, and underrated.

Take a look at yourself internally before you look externally. If you are comfortable with yourself, then you will create any changes you wish to create.

A 30" waist, vacuous expression, pouty mouth, and emaciated form never replaces warmth, humor, charm, intelligence, and something to hold on to.

You decide what you are happy with. Talk to the pictures and see if they answer back....see, the ads have really nothing to say. Stick with your friends..and maybe a few pushups! (If you think you should lose a few pounds, check with your doctor, get a physical, and go from there).

Have a great summer, and be happy..you sound like you are, and will.

Princess Darby

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