I have a great boyfriend, but he can't get along with any of my friends.
Most of my friends are into art, culture, fine dining and intellectual pursuites. My boyfriend is into football and wrestling.
Whenever we go out, he asks to leave early. I'd really like for him to be able to have a conversation about something other than sports.
Dear Sports Widow,
"Getting along with people" does not require one to have same beliefs, interests, or background.
People like to be surrounded around others who are similar to themselves. Your boyfriend may not have the interests or talents of others you engage with, but there must be other attributes you value in him.
Does he want to leave because they are boring? Does he like contact sports because he is physical (you could have fun here!).
You sleep with your boyfriend, not your friends. You say you have a "terriffic boyfriend". You're lucky he goes to the events with you even though he asks to leave early
The question is do you go to his events? He doesn't need to go to all of yours.
If this truly is grating on you, there may be issues on another level. Negotiate your social differences, if not, the differences you feel now could escalate later.
If he treats you like a princess, then you have it made. Life's toooo short, enjoy him, cultivate him, he might like it!
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