Many have heard the heart wrenching story of Shane Bitney Crone losing his partner of six years, Tom Bridegroom. It was May 7, 2001; Tom lost his life, after falling from a rooftop.
Out of that experience, Shane was given a perspective he didn’t know he would ever have.
“I need to fight for what’s right. I need to fight for what I believe in and I can’t just stand back any more. Maybe that’s why all this happened and maybe this is part of the reason; is to open my eyes and to inspire me to want to make a change and want to fight for equality. I just don’t know if people will listen."
"I guess no one’s going to listen, if I don’t talk. So I’m talking!"
And talk he did, through his amazing documentary BRIDEGROOM.
This morning, I noticed Shane posted the following on his Facebook: “Happy Birthday to the love of my life, Tom. I miss you deeply, but celebrate you today with laughter, love, and lots of wonderful memories.” The anniversary of Tom's death is approaching and many of you have asked how you can help honor him. On that day, May 7, I want to celebrate his outgoing spirit and compassion for humanity by encouraging you all to be a part of the conversation. Here are some ways to get involved (and remember, save your posts for May 7!).
1. Organize a BRIDEGROOM documentary viewing party at your home, school, etc. and lead a conversation. We want to see your viewing parties so make sure you take a picture and use the hashtags #TapTapTap and #BridegroomMovie. You can also “check in” to our global Facebook event: TapTapTap. Remember you can view BRIDEGROOM on Netflix or rent it from iTunes.
2. Make a video or write about your own experiences with seeing BRIDEGROOM, coming out, fighting for equal rights, etc. Share them on YouTube, Facebook, Twitter, Vine, Instagram, Tumblr, etc. Use the hashtags #TapTapTap and #BridegroomMovie to join in.
Thank you all for your support and love today--it means the world to me.
There isn’t a day that goes by where Shane’s example doesn’t motivate and inspire me. Seeing the petty shit that we all place value in seems pretty meaningless compared to Shane and Tom’s story. I dare you; I dare myself, to be/do more than we have for equality, equal justice, and tolerance.
YeeeeHaw! My Gay Roommate’s, Noam Ash is at it again; breaking the comedic barriers with a new installation of #MGR. Turns out the Noam’s character, Nick is rooming with more than he signed up for. Ed, his roommate has a few friends he’s been hiding.
If you’re into cute cowboys, rough thugs, and a damsel queen named Priscilla; then you’re in for a treat.
Now Scarlet is going one step further in promoting their Friday RiDiKulous parties, by joining the selfie craze. Simply snap a selfie with the Scarlet billboard and post it; tagging @ScarletChicago on Instagram and/or ScarletBar on Facebook. A winner will be drawn, to receive a Friday night stage party at Scarlet. All participants will receive a prize. (One entry per person. Contest through April 12th)
This is your chance to “exercise your selfie control!”
There are quite a lot of Frankie stories to be shared. I met a protégé of his, David Morales back in 1998, when we brought him to Seattle's Paradise Garage. It was there that I first heard House Music and learned about Frankie. It was also that evening where I met my second boyfriend, Christopher. Both moments I'll not ever forget.
A few years later, upon my arrival to Chicago, I was given a copy of his Whistle Song. That mix became a representation of my personal life changes and relocation. No exaggeration, I’ve probably listened to that mix every week for the last 13 years.
My friends Mark and Rodney invited me to meet Frankie. He was the resident Sunday DJ at their then new nightclub, Hydrate in Boystown. It was all I could do to not scream like a girl. Frankie was humble and very sweet. I’m sure with the amount of adulation he received every day, he was used to such fanaticism. For me, it was a moment to thank him for his music.
Every time I saw Frankie after that, he greeted me as if we were old friends. I’m quite sure he didn’t even know my name, but his kindness was true to form for him.
It’s sad to say goodbye to a friend, who helped to define so many lives through music. His impact on this world will live on forever.
SO much fun was had last weekend, beginning with the young professionals from the IFH Junior Board on Friday. They hosted InterACT: Cocktailing for a Difference at Rebel Bar & Grill in Chicago’s Wrigleville neighborhood.
What better way to have fun and give back to the community than drinks with new friends and old! There was a great turnout and everyone had a nice time. I was pleased to see a number of folks who’ve never heard about IFH. You can see photos from the event above or here.
Saturday was spent in fellowship with friends. Now Sunday, was spent in the most lackadaisical way. I woke up pretty early, and had the marvelous idea to make breakfast in bed. I enjoy cooking, but there’s something to be said about cooking for oneself as a form of pampering.
As you can see above, I had eggs, bacon, English muffin, coffee, and orange juice. The only thing that could have made this meal better was if Joe Jonas himself were enjoying it next to me.
I then spent the whole day being with myself; a bit of time outside in the spring weather, a delicious lunch and ending it with a bit of Downton Abbey and a sumptuous dinner. (I’m watching it from the beginning.)
When was the last time you made a day like that for yourself? By the time I went to bed, I was relaxed and ready for the week. I had a perfect night’s sleep and woke just before my alarm.